Loss & Grief

A Hunger for Joy — Lorca’s TEDx

I found when I had told this story here that I had never told it before — not like this. We find the opening when what needs to be...

Would you like to hear the eulogy at your own funeral?

“And you would be…?” Good morning, dearests. Would you like to hear the eulogy at your own funeral? I think I just did. I had a rare...

How we _really_ honor those we’ve lost

With our lives. Aimlessness and loss compound each other. Perhaps you’re lying in bed at night worrying about tomorrow or next...

Fighting terrorism from where you are

Dear ones, this morning I, too, am torn, deeply sad and sorry and worried, reaching out to friends to know they’re safe, aware...

Radical Awakeness: Living Among Animals

I was invited to share today in part because my life and my work has become embedded in so very many animals. Our river farm is and has...

Taking PTSD under the pavilion

The gift of inland islands… Three months ago post-traumatic stress came to walk beside me again, after many years gone. Random panic...

The Pain-Bearers

Sometimes I think I have come into this life as one of the pain-bearers — not one who takes all pain onto herself, nor one who takes it...

Adventures in “Deathbed” Conversations

A story and an invitation and a challenge. The story is here in this short Pecha Kucha video. This was about people playing with...

This I believe.

We are all together on this ship and some of us will die sooner. Some young. I will grieve again, and comfort. It may be me. Those of...

Where gracefulness matters and where it doesn’t.

But this is where I want to be clear. I am not asking that my engagement with my own particular demons be clean. That I stay fully...

Burnout is an open door.

Sometimes I feel I must be an alien, because I really, really love to talk about death, and about burnout. But this is really why. When I...

Resilience is Power. And Peace.

“I just wanted myself back, and then to create something more. After what I’ve been through, I am not going to settle for an average...